Nothing has really changed, I still have not gotten any reply from my birth mom and don't know if I ever will. Since this journey started a major event happened in my home state of New York. Gov Cuomo signed Assembly Bill A5494 making available original or non altered birth certificates to ALL adoptees born in New York. Each would have to file for it starting Jan. 15 2020. This is a game changer for all. This includes me.
With the information I now have access to she can not deny what I already know - her name.
So Jan 15th came and went and I didn't order it. I figured there would be a mad rush anyway. But the week of Valentines day I got a letter sent to my brother with his non id info and it triggered something in me. He got pictures from before we got him with a possible name written on the back, and a bunch of info he needed to process. But it's Valentine's Day and he got a gift. Our mom died on Valentine's Day and it helped us. After I had turned over the picture of him and saw his "name" I remember the Bill and decided to order my birth certificate.. Adopted friends on fb were just getting theirs so I thought it would be a good time...... The website said it would take 30-45 business days, so I've waited this long... what's a month or so?
Here comes covid-19... offices shut down and NY hit the hardest... so my wait will be much longer.
Here's another bit of info I may get... birth father's name. Yes I was conceived by rape but it was by someone who was staying with my grandparents when it happened (according to my research and non id info). He did know about me and took off when I was born.. It would be interesting to find that piece of info.
But it will happen later. So wait with me, but pray for my home state as they struggle in this season.
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