I was chatting with a new searcher the other day and going over where to get information for her search and then started to share with her things that could happen and what she might expect. I thought to myself... hey self... I've seen a ton of the how to and where to go but not a lot of what can happen along the way... why don't you post some direction and insight... so here goes!!
1. Remember that you are not alone...
2. You will feel alone.
3. Things can happen quickly
4. Things can take forever
5. Friends can be very supportive
6. Friends can be very discouraging
7. This journey can be ALL consuming
8. You have a life to be lived today in the present.
9. You may have a wonderful reunion
10. You may never find the one you are looking for.... and it has to be okay
11. The end may not be the end.... just a pause for God to do something else
12. We (adoptees) have rights that have been denied to us... the right to know our origins...you can fight for this right but not everyone has to be an advocate.... some of us just support the cause.
13. The adoption process is and has been corrupt. This won't change over night... you do not have to live as a victim of this broken system. There are MANY children who's lives have been saved through adoption... There ARE good adoption stories... Happy families... Loving homes.
14. EVERY family is different adopted and natural (hate that term)
15. Only God will open doors and close them too.
16. God's plan in perfect... humans can mess it up.
17. We all look for familiar faces - natural families don't always look alike
18. To be respected you should be respectful. Honor your parents. (both sets) God has a promise that goes with that one.
19. In your search you may find friends in high places... protect them so others will still have have resource
20.Thank those who help you - many have already been through the pain of their search and may still need encouragement once in a while
21. Help those in their journey- guide, encourage, listen, listen, listen, advise but be careful.. your journey might be different
22. Cry with those who cry, rejoice with those who rejoice.
23. Don't get bitter at those who have happy endings when yours isn't working out well.
24. When you are rejoicing.. be mindful of those who can't yet.
That's all I have right now.... comment below if you think I've missed something... I probably have.
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